Sometimes having a baby may not be possible for medical reasons. It may also be a matter of choice. Lots of people decide that they want to adopt a baby to grow their family.
A lot of thought goes into adopting a baby, and not everyone can do it. You may decide to adopt a baby right from it’s birth. There are a lot of apprehensions you may feel before adopting a baby.
You may feel that since the baby has not been in your womb there may not be an instant bonding between the baby and you.
Since you have not conceived and gone through the pregnancy you may feel that you do not know enough .However that is not true. Pregnancy for the birth mother could be as new for her as it is to you. The baby will bond with anyone who gives them love, affection and care. She is likely to get this from you when you take her home.
Just as it is a learning experience for any first time biological mom, it is the same learning experience for you. You may feel that you may not know how to look after what is someone else’s child. You can ask the adoption agencies for help, read up on books and talk to your friends and get ready for the adoptive birth.
You will be doing the same things that a normal biological mother would in terms of care and loving the baby. The only thing that you would not be doing is breastfeeding, but the special bond will develop between you and the child through tender loving care.
Sometimes you may decide to adopt an older child. In this case, you need to find out about the baby from the person who was looking after her. It may be more difficult when you take a baby who is already a few months old, and is already settled into a pattern with familiar people. The reaction may be different between the baby and you and the baby may not be comfortable. She will gradually get used to you if you love and care for her enough.