Aggression in children is difficult to prevent since it is determined by many factors and is associated with several ecological systems like family, school, peer group etc. Children at a certain age behave more aggressively.
Parents of children having aggression problems face more difficulty in managing their child’s behavior. Parents need to know that each child faces such a phase while growing up and there is some trick by which their children can be taught to manage anger more appropriately and responsibly.
Children tend to lose their temper for many reasons like when they feel that their property is being invaded by others, when they face certain situation like hitting or pushing, when one teases them or makes a taunt on them, when they are being ignored or rejected or when they are asked to do which they don’t like at all etc.
And when they experience such situations they express their anger in certain ways like crying, sulking, hitting, pushing, not involving in group activities, seeking adult help etc. They don’t know how to react in such situations and hence could not manage their aggression effectively.
In such situations parents and teachers have to play a vital role in assisting the children to manage their aggression. This can be done in various ways like- first find out the exact reasons as to why your child is behaving in an aggressive way. Then come out with constructive solutions to teach the children how to deal with anger.
You can also tell your child to speak to someone whom he/she trusts when they feel aggressive. In this way, you can come to know the exact reason of your child’s behavior. Don’t shout at him/her when he/she discloses the reason. If you do this your child will lose his/her trust on you and will feel that it is better to hit someone rather than disclosing it to you. So, listen to him/her attentively and you can ask him/her questions later.
You can become a good role model by handling your own anger when your child’s behavior makes you aggressive. Also, you can treat your child with respect as you treat to an adult. Praise your child when he/she shows responsible behavior while in anger. Don’t let your child play with toys, which encourage aggressive behavior like guns, sticks, swords etc.