Authoritative Parenting

Parenting styles around the world have evolved to take into account the standards that are used by parents when bringing up their child. Every parent has certain notions about how they want to bring up their children. While most parents look up to their own parents as examples, others have different ideas about the relationship that they want to share with their children.

The parenting style that you adopt is not to be taken lightly as it can a tremendous impact on the well being of the child physically, emotionally as well as psychologically. It may affect their performance at school and their overall personalities.

There are four basic types of parenting styles the theories for which were developed by Diana Baumrind. These include authoritative parenting, authoritarian parenting, permissive or indulgent parenting and negligent parenting.

While authoritarian parents are strict and excessively demanding with high expectations of compliance for rules and regulations, permissive parents are lenient and accepting.

Although they are attuned to the needs of the child, they are extremely indulgent and fail to regulate the children causing them to become spoilt. In contrast to this negligent parents are detached from their children showing them no warmth and emotional support.

Of all the parenting styles the authoritative style of parenting is considered to be the healthiest. This form of balanced parenting allows the parents to develop close relations with their children while also keeping in mind that the children adhere to their rules and expectations. The authoritative parents are nurturing and responsive.

Although they do set guidelines, they emphasize on the reason for the rules. They respect the children and understand that they are rational and intelligent being.

Therefore instead of blindly enforcing rules like an authoritarian parent, they reason with the children when they make a mistake. They do not resort to harsh cruel punishments or shame the children in any way. Instead they seek to find a balance between responsibility and freedom in their parenting style.

If you encourage your children to express their feeling, consider their wishes and try to help the child when he/she is upset or hurt then you are an authoritative parent. Authoritative parents and children share a warm and friendly relationship.

It is seen that children with authoritative parents have discipline, self control and generally do well academically. They are also less likely to indulge in juvenile crimes like drugs and are better learners as well as problem solvers.

Parul Solanki