Dealing With Your Anger

Even the calmest of parents sometimes become angry at their children when they misbehave. It is a reality that when you are tensed or frustrated, it is easy to lash out the closest to you especially a child who has irritated you in some way. This kind of violent behavior may make him frighten or confused but it is not going to harm your youngster.

Anger is a human emotion and no child should be shielded completely from it if she is to be able to cope with the people and the situation she will confront in the world beyond the home.

If you feel yourself becoming enraged, try to understand why before the emotions run away with you.
Pull back, if you can, and pause to reflect. By stopping to think about the situation, you give yourself the chance to cool off. At this moment the old technique of counting to 10 or taking five deep breaths helps.

Even after all these the feeling may not dissipate right away, in which case you can resort to several activities that may help in dispel it. At your most exhausted state you may sometimes think that your youngster is deliberately out to annoy you. As busy parents know too well, irrational anger is often the outgrowth of stress and fatigue. You can try out some stress releasing activities like yoga, aerobics, dancing or jogging to avoid losing temper.

You should also remember that parents need occasional break from their children, so do not feel guilty for taking one. By spending a little time with your spouse or your friends you are just rejuvenating your spirit and making yourself a better parent.

Despite all these efforts to manage your anger, you will undoubtedly lose your temper from time to time. Never feel guilty to say sorry or to explain to your young one why you had to lash her. Explanation can go a long way towards defusing the situation and restoring equilibrium. Your child will appreciate your honesty and in apologizing you will have won more of his respect as well and in turn she would have learned a way to handle her own anger.

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