More and more children these days are being born out of wedlock, and while this is a very common occurrence in a lot of parts in the world, it does cause havoc in the woman’s life. Quite a large number of countries have prohibitive laws against the act of abortion as such the pregnant women either have the option of allowing their child to be adopted or to raise it as a single mother It is not woman’s first choice to have to “give” her baby away.
A baby being born is a treasure to the woman and something she will cherish for the rest of her life as such raising the baby as single mother is what most women choose to do. Being a single mother can be a very big challenge and if you are residing in a country that is very unequal in terms of the sexes then it can be very difficult for you to manage. Being a single mother also has a lot of effects on the baby.
It certainly is very different for a child to be raised by both the parents than just the mother. This is because both the partners bring in specific aspects related to their sex that help the child have overall growth and development. It is not possible for either of the people to be able to provide complete growth and development from the point of views of both a man and a woman.
As such it is important to understand how children usually tend to develop and behave when being raised by single mothers. It is not the best option; however an option nonetheless. No effects will immediately show; however as the child grows up and especially during the teenage years when adolescence begins, it is the time when the most amounts of troubles will surface. These can be anything from sexual related problems to behaving conducts. As such it is important to understand the effects on children being born and raised by single mothers.
The Economic Factor
Single mother can quite often struggle financially when it comes to the upcoming and responsibility of a child and you. This is primarily because there is only one source of income to sustain and provide for the expenditures of the house. This way it can become quite difficult to manage because as a child grows so does his or her expenses.
In addition to that it can become very hard to manage both your savings and maintain a decent standard of living. Also, a lot of mothers have to try and depend on the government funding programs available to marginally support single mothers. This can have quite a drastic and composing effect on the child because financial problems make children feel insecure and inadequate in the society.
Stress, anxiety, and depression are amongst the most common factors that children in single-parent families face. The main reason for this is the antisocial atmosphere that dwells in the household. Some children can manage to adapt to the society and become quite social; however on a general scale kids are usually very introvert.
This feeling grows and develops as they grow and develops and can sometimes become permanent. Children can also become antisocial and avoid talking to any of their peers at all. Such signs of behavioral problems can become quite serious as such it is best to have your child see a counselor for proper guidance and care.
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Kids can often feel left out or not adequate enough to be a part of their peer group. While this may not be subject to a child’s personality, it can often show up due to the care and atmosphere provided at home. In due time these feelings tend to turn to self-esteem issues and children start to feel very insecure and incapable of being able to do anything in life. This will kill all their ambitions and motivations in life.
Adolescence is the time when kids with single mothers tend to struggle the most. This is because a girl or a boy both has specific needs when they reach their teenage years. Their bodies go through a lot of physical changes and demands that need to understood.
In addition to that this is the time parents provide their children with the adequate cautions and education regarding hormonal changes and sexual activities. One parent cannot fill the shoes of the other, as such in this aspect it can be quite disadvantageous for the children as they will most likely be left to lean through experiment, and this is not always a good thing.
All households have different situations. Some mothers might be in touch with the father of the children, some might not. In any case it is important for the children to have the shelter of both his and her parents. As such no matter how many issues and problems there are between the two of you, they can in no case be bigger or more important than the issue of helping your child develop and grow. A child will always be incomplete without the proper parenting or support from both the parents.
A lot of the times single mothers tend to become and/or feel so involved with their children that they start affecting the child’s sense of liberty. In addition to that there is always a sense of being the father as well, and this can have a lot adverse effects on the child simply because children learn, adapt, and understand very quickly about you being a single mother.
As such trying to provide parenthood of the father without being the father can often create distances between you two. As such the best thing is to educate your child in every aspect of the realms of the society and make him or her understand the meaning and roles of being a single mother. This way your child is very unlikely to lose his or her path in life to misconduct.
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