It is quite common for newborn babies to cry a lot. Crying is their main form of communication and babies just use it when ever they need something or feel uncomfortable. First time parents are often at a loss to understand why the baby is crying and often feel helpless.
In most babies, the crying comes down after 4-6 weeks as the baby gets adjusted to the new environment.As parents, always rememeber that this is just a temperorary phase and does not mean anything serious. If you are really concerned about your baby’s inconsolable crying, you can always consult a doctor and make sure that the baby is healthy and growing at a normal rate.
There is no need to think that you are not a good mother and the baby is crying because you are not able to understand her needs properly. Parenthood is always a period of constant learning and no body is 100% perfect.
Trying to understand the reason for crying:
Even experienced parents may fail to understand the exact reason of a baby’s fussy behaviour. The following checklist may help pacifying your baby:
Is the baby hungry?
If your baby didn’t take a full feed the last time you fed her, may be she is hungry. Also check if your milk supply is decreasing or if the baby is not latching on properly to draw enough milk. May be she needs to be fed her formula a little more often than the usual every three hours or so.
The baby not getting enough breastmilk or formula can be very unlikely in the initial months. If the baby is crying before two hours after a full feed, she may not be crying because of hunger.
If the baby needs to be changed
Some babies cry when they are wet or when they soil their nappy. They would become instantly happy if you change their nappy. Most babies often do not care if their nappy is wet, but some get irritated quickly.
If the baby’s crying is mainly limited to some hours in the afternoon or evening and is she has wind trouble, it may be colic. colic refers to pain in the intestine. If it is colic, the baby usually stops crying for sometime when you hold her vertically as she gets some relief when her tummy presses aganist you. To avoid colic, burp the baby properly after feeding. Some colicky babies tend to vomit after feeding.
Some babies cry an hour or so later after a full feeding when the milk is being digested. It could be a problem with the food that you had which is not agreeing with them.Try reducing caffeine, tuber crops, spicy food etc. If you are giving formula, check with your doctor if the formula needs to be changed.
Does she want you to hold her?
Some babies calm down when you closely hold them in your arms and rock them as this makes them feel snug and secure.
Is the baby tired or sleepy
Sometimes, if the baby did not sleep properly or had been played with for too long by parents or others, they would become fussy. Unfamiliar places and the presence of lot of strangers can also make babies fretful. The solution is to reduce the lighting , try rocking her in a cradle or walk around with her in the room till she calms down. Some babies always make a fuss when they are sleepy while some others quietly go to sleep.
Is she feeling cold or feeling too warm?
If the weather is really cold, check if the baby is properly wrapped up.
In warmer climates, too much wrapping around can be quite uncomfortable for babies. Try breathable and light cotton clothes.
Is the baby Sick?
Check if the baby has temperature or running nose or cough or loose bowels and consult a doctor immediately.
Never shake a baby
In a desperate attempt to stop crying, some parents try to shake the baby. Never attempt to do this as this can be very dangerous for the baby After you have tried in every possible way to sooth a baby and if the baby is crying all the more, it is natural for you to get angry and frustrated. Remember, she is a small baby and that is her only form of communication and it is just a temperory phase.