It is a common complaint of every mother, their toddlers do not listen to them. But you have to understand that it is your duty to make them understand things and pay attention to what you are saying.
The child tries to get your attention by not listening to you. There are some simple tips that can be followed which can help them to become good listeners.
Try to get to the level of your child so that you can make an eye contact. Bend down or pick your child up. This helps in getting the attention of the child she will listen to you much more closely.
State your message in clear and simple words but in an authoritative manner. Do not harp on a topic for too long. Make it clear whatever you want to say and never threaten your toddler or make false promises. Make sure that both the partners follow each other’s rules and respect them.
Do not repeat less important instructions again and again. It is better to show your child what you expect her to do. You can reinforce your message by following up your verbal statement with other kinds of messages. For example, if you want your child to go to bed you can give her a visual cue by pulling her attention towards you and guiding her to bed.
Give some advance warnings to your child if you want her to do something or if any change is going to take place. Always try to motivate and encourage your child.
Yelling and scolding may give you temporary results but nobody is going to enjoy it. You can give a straightforward message in an authoritative manner but accompany it with a hug or a smile.
Always listen to your child if you want him to listen to you. Respond in a polite manner even her talks are silly. Do not interrupt her when she is speaking.
Children respond very well if you treat them in a good humor. Praise your child when he follows your instructions. Make her feel special and tell her that you love her. Good humor, trust and affection go a long way in making a special bond with your child.