Negativism-An Annoying Habit

There is only a desire in all the parents, is the wish to raise a good child. Good behavior is a matter of learning and abiding by social rules. Every child is born with an ability to learn and carve in them favorable conduct.

Young children have a tendency to say “no” constantly. It is a word they hear all too often from their parents. Youngsters make “no” serve a number of purposes. It is a wonderful nonsense word, with a short, vigorous sound that the early takers can roll cheerfully over his tongue in strings. At this age disobedience and negativism are the furthest things from his mind.

The loud “no” that actually convey disobedience come at around 18 months when your little one is developing a more distinct sense of self. When a child starts behaving forcefully it is a healthy sign of growing independence. The reasonable “no”, the one he uses to express personal preferences much as you do. This appears around the age of three, along with all sorts of other negative phrases.

Negativism becomes a problem when you exacerbate the situation by reacting angrily to your child’s “no”. The best way is to avoid being trapped by him is to let him say “no’. However, you should make quite clear to him that he must nevertheless do what you ask, because you know what is best.

You ask him to do his work by explaining to him that he can get back to play after finishing what he is asked to do. This lets your child know that you sympathize with his objections, but you are not moving from your position. You must make it a practice of reacting positively with your child’s affirmative behavior.

Smile and always praise your child. A “yes” should always be encouraged and make him understand its importance. You will soon find that it helps to avoid asking your youngster questions that require yes or no answer. Sentences like “shall we go now?”Should be avoided and rephrased as “Time for us to go”.

geeta krishnan