Sex During Pregnancy

You are first time pregnant and you seem to have the question of whether sex is safe during pregnancy. There are several questions that arise in your mind like you and your spouse feel strange about making love? Or is intercourse safe or is orgasm safe or the like.

It is important to understand that for most women pregnancy brings about changes in your sexual relationship. Some women may feel beautiful while some feel clumsy and obese. Some women may have unconditional support from their partner while another may be going through a difficult time.

As a woman you are undergoing several bodily changes like breast tenderness, nausea, fatigue, weight gain, hormonal changes and changes in pelvic circulation which your partner may or may not understand. Your moods keep changing and so your desire for your partner. It is best to be open and communicate openly rather than cause a gap in your relationship.

Is it safe to have sex during pregnancy? You may have heard reports about miscarriages or infection or vaginal bleeding because intercourse. You may also wonder whether deep entry of the penis into your vagina and your partner’s weight on top of your abdomen may risk your baby.

There are special cases where having intercourse may pose a problem…if you are at risk for a miscarriage or preterm labor, if you have had vaginal bleeding, in case you have painful cramps after intercourse or if you have a new sexual partner who has a sexually transmitted disease. The only warning one should keep in mind is that your partner should not blow air into your vagina which may cause an air bubble in the blood stream which is a serious complication.

Other than these exceptions, you can perfectly enjoy a healthy sexual relationship with your partner during pregnancy. Uterine contractions during pregnancy are normal and will not affect your little baby. Ensure gentle shallow penetration and use positions that avoid placing your partner’s weight on your abdomen. Your baby is perfectly safe with the cushioning effect of the amniotic fluid and the uterus is sealed during pregnancy so do not worry.

Esther Gideon


The author is a postgraduate in business management and is a mother of a four year old and an eight month old.