Having a step family would be quite difficult for some, considering that you’ll be raising kids not your own. You can be sure as well that they will have certain traits and characteristics that might give you a hard time in dealing with as their step father or stepmom.
Some have considered parenting to be the most difficult job in the world. Well, if that’s the case then step parenting is definitely twice as harder than being a parent of your own kids.
When you choose to have such a life and kind of family, then it would be best for you to prepare yourself for a bumpy and ‘twist and turn’ kind of a ride.Bear in mind then that in step parenting, children usually expect to have the same kind of atmosphere or the way it used to be kind of environment.
It is imperative that you keep yourself open and be ready for any unexpected occurrences as well.
Just always remember that you cannot replace their own real parent, though you can make them understand that in order for such a new environment or step family to understand each other and build a better bond of new relationships in the entire family.
Respecting each others differences, interests and hobbies should be put into consideration. It would be unrealistic of you to expect love from your step children at such an early stage of your family relationship but asking them to respect you and each other would be your key to reaching your step children.
Furthermore, as a step parent when there’s a disciplining aspect involved, might as well let their biological parent do it, especially on the older children since it is their biological parent who know how to deal and impose some disciplinary action. Though, you may try to talk to such misbehaving child later on, to let them feel that you’re there as well to take care of them as your own.
There will be times though, that your step children would throw such a”you’re not my father/mother” kind of lines; the best possible way for you to deal with it is to have more patience but be firm and clear when reprimanding such a child.
Let them know that you have no intention of replacing their biological father/mother, and let them know that their biological parent is not available at this time; that you’re the only available adult at that moment and you have the responsibility to impose any rules and regulations that needed to be followed. Lastly, just have a lot of patience in your pocket but be firm in every decision that you’ll make.