It is a good idea to break a task down into small, manageable segments that can be explained in simple terms to your young one. For example when you consider the counter wiping exercise, it is unlikely to produce a successful result unless your child has been shown each part of the process, starting with the stool she needs to reach the counter which has to be cleaned.
She must also be shown how to press the nozzle on her spray bottle to release the water with which she is going to clean and how to wet the sponge and wring it out and so on.
Each step of the task should follow in sequence, but do not worry if your child gets muddled at first. Remembering sequence is often difficult for a young child. And just when you think that she has mastered the job, she may forget all or parts of it.
If that happens, go on to something else for a while, it might be that you may be expecting too much too soon. When she does master a job such as cleaning the kitchen counter, ask her to tackle a small section of the surface first.
This step by step procedure applies to any job a youngster is learning—from picking her toys to looking after backpack once she is going to and from school on her own.
During her preschool years, your child learns to establish order in the physical world. She realizes that there is an appropriate place and time for things.
You may want to set aside a special time every day for household chores or you may incorporate them into the already existing mealtime, bath time or bedtime routines. You might ask your youngster to set a table 20 minutes before dinner each night or to hang up the towel right after the bath.
While routine are important, you should also leave room for flexibility. After your child has learned how to do a task, let her make some of the choices about it –which toys to pick up first, or which part of the counter to sponge.