By no means is communication simply a matter of words. It involves such body language as smiles, hugs and kisses–and it means listening. When you listen carefully to your youngsters and project empathy and respect, you demonstrate your trust and your confidence in him.
You are letting him know that he is entitled to his own perceptions and beliefs–even when they do not match yours. This critical lesson will serve him when he steps out into the world and has to communicate with others.When your child seems eager to tell you something, give him your full attention.
Fold up your newspaper, turn off the TV or set aside whatever else you are doing. Turn towards him and look into his eye. Offer him all the encouragement you can without interrupting him. When he is finished, you might restate what he said in slightly different words to demonstrate that you have heard and understood him, or you might ask him some question to make him feel that you have heard him.
You should be careful about not pressuring the child. At times your child may need your help in expressing her feeling. Formulating his point of view when it is hard for him to speak may visibly relax him. Other times just uttering “oh”, in a caring way, gives him a boost.
This will sometime be even useful to sum up the situation and suggest a possible solution to him.If your youngster is too upset or frustrated to express himself at all, allow him sometime to collect himself. You yourself may need the time to formulate your thoughts.
If your little one is angry, the cooling off period will benefit both of you. When you find that he is ready to talk, you can help him grip on the situation just by guessing what is on your mind.
If you are wrong in guessing he can correct you, or if you understand his problem, you can ask him how he would handle the situation. This will help them to know how to deal with their anger, rather than merely venting it.