Throwing Objects-An Aggressive Behavior

Throwing things are unquestionably fun. Many a youngster starts throwing things simply to express himself physically when he is less than a year old. But as your child grows older, throwing can turn into an expression of anger and frustration, particularly if he has not learned any alternative means of venting his negative feelings.

And as play moves from plastic rattle to wooden blocks and his hand-eye coordination improves, his aim can become dangerously accurate, making this mode of attack against playmates, pets and parents all the more enticing.

From the start, discourage deliberate throwing, as distinct from the clumsy or absent-minded dropping of things. Many babies make a game of throwing things on the floor for Mummy and Daddy to pick up, which may delight the parents as well as the child for a few rounds.

When the novelty wears off and you wish to bring this sport to an end, pick the item up and return it once or twice with firm. If he still continues after that, lay the object aside until another time when he may be more inclined to hold onto it. Be prepared to withstand his protest and praise him when he plays properly with things.

If, your child gets older, he continues to throw things, aiming to hit someone, intervene immediately and tell him about the consequences. Make him understand that he is not allowed to hurt other children. You can review the action and show him the response. Tell him continuously that he should play in turn with his friends.

When your child hears these model ways of dealing with conflicts several times, he will start to use it instead of acting out his feeling of anger. You can also try role playing, with you in the role of another child and your youngster who has to find a friendly way to share his toy. Praise his suggestion and lead him subtly in the acceptable direction.

At the same time, show your child that there are right times and places to throw things, such as in throwing games and that skill in this kind of throwing earns praise.

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