Parents should avoid ignoring the screaming and yelling behavior of their child. The child below 5 years of age need to have training about acceptable behavior and should be taught to know the differences between proper and improper ways of communication. Screaming to get things done their way is not at all a good behavior.
Tips For Anger Control in children
The commonest mistake of ignoring that most parents do certainly needs to be rectified. Children need to know the boundaries of happy, independent and responsible child. Teach them why screaming is disrespectful to others and marked as bad behavior. ‘Why’ behind the discipline is what they should be taught.
Sit to Talk
Help the child to identify the reason behind the screaming and parent should never ever react by yelling or any kind of outburst as this would only support more of screaming instead of stopping it. Teach by example – speak calmly, firmly and clearly even when you yourself are irritated by the kid’s behavior, rather than by anger, blame, threats, criticism or putdowns.
Accompany your child to move to another room or place where you two can talk on something new and better. This would help the child to have better self control over anger or frustration that was the cause of that screaming behavior.
Change the Mood
Once child calms down, comfort and motivate his accepting behavior and encourage him to do something of his likings that could be playing, going for a ride, reading a favorite book, listening to favorite song or just enjoying your company and talking over newer things.
Really angry episodes are not very common among kids but those with temper troubles normally have strong willed reaction and extra energy that need to be properly managed into constructive ways.
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Keep them busy by assigning different chores to them when free at home. Occupied kid will have fewer reasons to be angry for.
Involve them more into sports like swimming, cricket, basketball, etc. to channelize their energies into these physical activities.
Teach them that it is fine to be angry once in a while but at the same time it should never harm others and go beyond the acceptable behavior. It is always better to tell the reason behind your temper by talking rather than shouting, yelling or screaming as then nobody would like to befriend with you.
Assign the child with newer responsibilities as that would serve as learning and calming experience in itself.
Be flexible for things at times, in regard to extending the timings of his desired fun time or favorite tasks. Avoid scolding for little mistakes in day to day life.
Most children get over their instant anger state as they grow up and understand the acceptable behavior with support of their parents. But for those who get into frequent fights or arguments with siblings, friends and adults, additional help through counseling might be needed. Take help from other adults in the life of your child like teachers and coaches to deal with anger blues in a better way.