Although parents are always required to take care of their children emotionally but teenage is the most difficult of all ages. Teenage is a very vulnerable age when a child is going through a host of changes; both physical and emotional. There are certain behavioral tips for parents to handle this difficult age of their child sensitively. Some of them are:
Adolescent irritation and stubbornness are common behavioral traits. However, it is important for parents to always maintain their cool. After all, parents are the first role models for their children. Also, like only a cold iron can cut a hot iron, only your cool can extinguish your child’s irritant anger. Instead, ask them politely to discuss the problems they are facing which are resulting in such a behavior.
If the child refuses, do not feel let down and lose hope. Try and be politely persistent in your efforts .Never in any case try to hit them because that can make your adolescent child extremely rebellious.
It is rightly said that when a child fits into his father’s shoes, treat him no more as a child but a friend. Try to make your teen as comfortable with you as possible by talking to them openly and politely. Let them know that you care for them and you are always there to support them no matter what.
Do not sensor any topic for discussion in your day to day life. They should know that they can approach you for a mature and honest guidance about anything.
Don’t be judgmental, extremely critical and forceful in voicing your opinions. This behavior of yours can make them exclude you from talking to you heartily. You must guide them sometimes a bit sternly, sometimes with love according to the situation you deem demands.
Be a good and patient listener. Try to understand them and their problems howsoever silly they might appear. Remember, the problems that you think are insignificant might be of greatest importance to them. Respect their feelings or else they will think that you do not understand their situation.
Try to teach them in a way that it does not look like a lecture. Tell them yours and others’ real life experiences so they can derive lessons out of them.