Many parents are anxious to get their child toilet trained, whether the child is ready or not. This is partly due to the fact that we live in a society which considers bladder and bowels movements as something not to be discussed in public.
Often, it can cause a lot a pressure on the child if a parent is pushing him so much to get trained early and can cause a negative effect on your training efforts.A lot of patience is needed to acheive this and some of the following tips may help you.
Look for readiness in your child to get trained
The first year
In the first year, the baby’s bowel movement is mostly automatic and occurs usually after feeding when his rectum is full. Some parents may notice it occurs usually at some particular time of the day and take the child to the potty seat.
After some days, when the child feels the potty seat under him, he pushes. This is training and not learning.The child does not do it knowingly. It requires a lot of time and persistence to train a child in this manner.
The Second year
Most of the children become aware of their bowel and bladder movements at this age. Most children would tell us in their own language when they urinate or their facial expression may change.
Some may even retreat to the corner of a room when a bowel movement occurs. This can be viewed as the first sign of readiness for toilet traing. Most of the kids would be ready between 18 and 24 months of age.
Buy a nice potty seat
There are hundreds of fancy potty seats available in the market. But, what you really need is a practical and simple one. You can buy one with a bright colour which your child love.You can place it in his play area for a few days.Let him play with it and get accustomed to it.
Showing how adults use their toilets will help
Explain to him Mom and Dad is using their toilets will always help.Children always want to act like grownups do and easily emulate what you do.They want to be independent and control atleast a few things in their life. Also they like praise and is eager to please their parents.
Important rule-Don’t force.
Only when you know that you have enough time to train the child start training them.Otherwise you will soon become impatient and get angry with a helpless child and it will only make things difficult for you and the child. Start by leading the child to the potty seat once or twice in a day when the movement is most likely and tell him to use it like mummy and daddy does.
You can keep telling the word he uses for his movements.Some children may readily comply.Others may just get up and run. Let him go away if he wants. Don’t force him. Try another time when he is in a happy mood and tell him how pleased you will be if he can do it on his own seat. After a few trials, he may succeed.For some children it will take days or weeks or months.
Always praise when he succeeds
Remember to appreciate your child when he succeeds in using his potty seat.This will instill a sense of pride and achievement in him and it reinforces the positive behaviour.
When accidents happen
Accidents are bound to happen in the training period when he pees on the floor or poops on his pants. Don’t scold him or be angry with him.But tell him clearly that you would have been more happy if he did it on his potty than on the floor.Ask him to remember using his seat next time when he feels like going.
Training can be hard if the child is constipated
If the child is constipated, he will find it really painful to have a bowel movement and may resist training.Take care of constipation first, if the problem is there.
What works for another child may not work for your little one
Some children are very obedient and will use the seats more readily. Others may resist it very much and this can become quite a struggle for you. You have to observe which approach works for you the best and slowly and steadily tackle it.