Often the children show behaviors that give tough time to the parents. Misbehaving by children is not a rare phenomenon, but when it becomes extreme, the parents must act in response. Otherwise, they might continue those unwanted behaviors even as grownups.
In fact, the sooner the parents become aware of the serious behaviors in the children, the better it is for the children as well as the parents.
So what are the symptoms of troubled kids?
When you see that your kid is extreme about his/her ideas and ‘always’ finds reason to argue, is absolutely defiant to others, is obsessive about certain things, keeps fighting with siblings and friends, is violent, then understand it’s time to take action.
What are the causes for troubled kids? Genetic disorder, physical or mental diseases, bad events or experiences are some of the causes of such disorder. However, frequent fights or divorce between parents, uncaring and misbehaving parents and siblings can also make the kids behave wildly. Thus, it is important for the parents to accept the fact that home can actually give rise to troubled kids.
How should the parents deal with the troubled kids? Well, do not try to over-control the kids. Quarreling with them, scolding, and punishing them might actually worsen the situation. You should properly communicate with them instead and try to find the source of their frustration, anger, and unwanted behaviors. There must be some reason(s) that might be the main cause for them to misbehave.
If you can figure that out, you are quite ahead in dealing with the situation. For instance, the main cause of frustration for a child might be the break-up of the parents. In such case, the parents should sympathize with the concerns of the kid and address those concerns appropriately.
More importantly, creating right space to the kids in the society is important. Hence, it is crucial for you to create right atmosphere for the children at home. When the children show serious behaviors for long time, you should look for some options that suit you and the children.
Putting the children at behavior modification schools, residential boarding school, treatment centers, military schools or home counseling are some of the ways to deal with such kids. Meanwhile, do not let yourself down; you are not only a parent with troubled kids.