When Punishments Become Necessary

No matter how much you may encourage your child’s good behavior; there will be times when he defiantly insists on testing the limits that you have established for him. You may then have no resource but to punish him. Just how you punish can make all the difference to the child’s self-esteem and future behavior, and ultimately to his image of you.

Punishment involves the use of unpleasant consequences to correct a youngster’s misbehavior, it is intended to instruct, not to harm or demean. The occasional smack on the bottom or rap on the hand is not likely to cause resentment, and they are often used by parents who want to teach an immediate lesson, especially where the child’s safety is concerned.

No child appreciates being humiliated, and there is no reason why a youngster should undergo a beating or a tongue lashing, especially when so many more constructing methods for teaching good behavior exist.

Children must learn to take responsibility for their behavior, but if they break the rules you have laid down for them after being carefully explained then they must be accountable for their actions. You can just give a stern expression or issue a firm reminder to make him produce results.

You can sometimes ignore the child when his behavior leaves something to be desired. This removes from him the attention he craves, motivating him to change his ways. The mildest of punishment involves ignoring the offending behavior. By disregarding it, you are withdrawing the most sought-after reward a youngster can have-attention.

You child will soon use all his wiles to catch your attention and then slowly he will involve himself in some other activity. The equally effective punishment called natural consequences obliges the child to accept the outcome of the behavior. For example if your youngster dawdles over his food after being told not to, remove his plate when you take rest family dishes.

Make him realize that if he does not eat the food on his plate, he goes to bed hungry. This will help him to assess his own action. Time out is also a particular effective discipline technique where a youngster is made to sit or stand alone in a specific spot for a predetermined time.  Make sure that the punishment always fits the circumstances and it lasts no longer than necessary.



geeta krishnan